Growing Up TOGETHER: Teen Mom shows vs. Reality

Growing Up TOGETHER: Teen Mom shows vs. Reality: So I watch all these teen mom shows and think to myself, "Is that what girls really think happens?" These girls get paid to do ...

Growing Up TOGETHER: The beginning of my blog

Growing Up TOGETHER: The beginning of my blog: I thought a lot about how to start a blog and why it would be important to me. My life has been a struggle. It still is. I am now 29 years...

Teen Mom shows vs. Reality

So I watch all these teen mom shows and think to myself, "Is that what girls really think happens?" These girls get paid to do the show. When you have a baby that young there isnt a brand new Dodge Charger. There are no hair extensions or nice condos.

As I said in my opening page that being a teen mom is very hard. I have been going to college off and on now for eight years and just completed to two year degree. That may be because I did it alone. If it wasnt for my parents and family's help even now, Im not sure I would have ever finished. I had to work in order to have anything and many times I lost everything. I have been evicted so many times I cant even recall them all because of losing jobs or quitting because the schedule didnt work with my mommy schedule. I have had to have my parents buy Christmas multiple time, pay my bills, and even move back in with them. This leaving me feeling horrible as a mother. I have had utilities turned off, cars repossessed, and been locked out of my residence and lost everything we owned. I know some will think that this is being irresponsible but I was a kid. I was trying to be a mom and didnt really know how.

Little by little you will find out more about my past and how I am now to this place that is finally looking up. But for now I will say while in high school I worked five days a week at a local fast food restaraunt just to have money. I could never even afford to purchase a car. I also worked at a local diner on the weekend on bar shift just to bring in extra cash. How I even managed to graduate is still a mystery. My Junior year of high school my way out was to attend a local vocational school in order to get a comsmetology license. Up until the middle of my senior year I road the bus. With a special carseat in it so my then 2-3 year old son could go to the daycare program there.

This all going back to that show does not show girls how hard it is to actually be a mom. There no nice houses, nice cars, and I was lucky to even afford to go to a restaraunt to eat. Its a struggle everyday. and what does a kid that age know about affording, not only themselves, but a child. Sure I had a mom who helped. But money was tight and I brought in another mouth to feed.

The beginning of my blog

I thought a lot about how to start a blog and why it would be important to me. My life has been a struggle. It still is. I am now 29 years old and have an almost 14 year old son. If you do the math I was fifteen when I had him. Three months after turning fifteen.I got pregnant at the age of fourteen. To end any misconceptions- I did not sleep around, plan this, nor will I ever say I was perfect. It happened and all my life I have tried to overcome the stigma of being a "teen mom". Statistically speaking I fall in the category of still being UN-married, my son has had brushes with authority, and his father is nowhere around. But UN-statistically not only did I graduate high school but college as well. I just graduated in June of 2012. It was a hard battle. Not just for me but him as well. Working minimal paying jobs, long hours, not enough time or money, and him having to do without to benefit in the future. This blog I hope will give hope to young girls now going through the same things and women my age so they know it is never to late to try and overcome this hard, hard battle.